I’ve truly gotten to the point where I can have a sense of humor about my miscarriage, although “too soon” may still encapsulate the response if I were to voice this humor in an everyday setting to those around me.
So many of the miscarriage conversations I’ve had or things I’ve read talk about, “After you expreince a miscarriage, it may seem like everyone around you is having babies.” Okay. It does seem that way. Because it is absolutely TRUE!
All around me friends, co-workers, ex-co-workers, people I somewhat know and are Facebook friends with who write all about their pregnancies and their new perfect babies all over the internet…people are FLAUNTING their healthy wombs all OVER the place! Sometimes I think they should keep it all to themselves, and then I feel as if I’m becoming a babyphob.
I’ve been extremely tempted to comment to a number of people, “Congrats on your new baby. I’m jealous of your womb,” but I fear people wouldn’t see the intended humor behind it. They probably just be sad. Or confused. Or I’d be opening up the door to people who don’t know about my miscarriage to say, “Get on the baby-making, already!” I’ve experienced that joke in person – it didn’t go well. My response of “I sure tried!” was met with awkwardness and teary eyes – from the jokester, not from me. The jokester, for the record, just had a baby! See! Everyone!!
I’ve resigned myself to the fact that the combination of humor and miscarriages is best handled by Seth McFarlane and Family Guy. (Geez. Didn’t realize how many dead baby jokes they had going on until I had a reason to pay attention!) You guys go for it. I’ll resign myself to the fact that the people around me care about me too much to indulge me in laughing about my sad occurance and that perhaps for them, it will always be “too soon”, and that is okay by me.
